2 girls' bicoastal voyage into our optimal physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing

My Dear John letter to sweets

Dear Sweets,
It’s over! I can’t do it anymore. Our relationship is toxic and super unhealthy. I love you too much. I can’t stay away from you. But, the time has come to realize that we are not good for each other.
I am too attached and I know that the feeling isn’t mutual. I tried to just have a casual relationship with you, but I couldn’t do it. I am an all or nothing girl and just casually dating you, my sweetie, just wasn’t reasonable. It was not possible.
When you are around, I think about nothing but you. Your sweetness was too hard to resist.
So today, we are breaking up. We cannot see each other for awhile. I know it is unreasonable to think that I will never encounter you again. We have too many mutual friends to think we won’t cross paths. Just know that I need to cut it off cold turkey. If I see you, I will keep my eyes averted. For now, it is too painful to see you with other people. Don’t say hi. Just ignore me, as I plan to do to you.
Maybe one day we can be friends again. Maybe one day I will see you casually. But right now, I just need to be away from you. Right now our love affair is too hot to handle. I feel out of control in your presence.
I need to make sure that I find a healthier relationship with someone that makes me feel good about myself. I feel nothing but regret after we are together.
So, thanks for the memories! They were sweet, indulgent and sinful at times. But for now, I just need some time away. Love you always!



Life is good

I couldn’t possibly love the return of our warm weather more. It’s 78 degrees at 6:45ish on a Saturday evening. I am sitting in our back carport area, full from a yummy Steak taco, rice, beans and a coconut Mojito. My entire family is sunkissed after an afternoon spent splashing in our kiddie pool. My littlest kid is well napped, my older kid is well fed and my husband is relaxed and happy hanging out with our busy boys. The fridge is full of groceries. The errands are all completed for the upcoming week. And the best thing is that we still have one more day in our weekend to just relax. We both got our workouts in today. Life feels so good. I feel good. I am going to take this moment and bottle it. I’ll save that bottle to open the next time I feel overwhelmed or unhappy. Life is so good. Sometimes you just need to stop and take it all in.

Morning Run


I woke up early to go for a run. There was a full moon last night, so I definitely did not feel rested even though I woke up without an alarm at 5:30 am. I am just a morning person early riser crazy woman. I forced my lazy butt to get dressed in my running clothes and headed down to lake for my weekend run.

It didn’t feel particularly early until I arrived at the lake with the view of the moon still out. 5:45 am with the big beautiful round moon still shining in the sky. It looked absolutely gorgeous. i wish that my cell phone camera could have captured its beauty.

It was a chilly morning which was perfect for my quick little jaunt around the lake. I tend to keep a good pace when there is no one else around. It’s funny, I just get super vigilant and cautious when I am running solo. It probably sounds goofy and paranoid, but I just want to keep myself away from any possible harm. There are lots of crazies out there. Anyways, I kept a good clip and finished my run 1 minute faster than normal. Not necessarily breaking any records, but my 10 minute mile with no stopping feels great for me.

I am super excited for hopefully 3 consecutive days of morning runs with this lovely 3 day weekend upon us. I so rarely get the chance to run during the weekdays, so I am looking forward to getting an extra day on the road.

Hope everyone is having a safe and fun Memorial Day weekend!

Night owl

Currently, I am sitting on our loveseat trying to type as quietly as humanly possible. It is pitch black in our living room and my eyes are still adjusting to the brightness of our computer screen. Little L is passed out snoring on the couch about 4 feet away from me. For the past couple of nights he has woken up in the middle of the night screaming and begging to go downstairs. This is familiar territory for me. About 6 months ago this was a nightly occurrence. And let me tell you, when it went away I almost threw a party!

Here’s how it went (and hopefully will not continue to go). L wakes up sometime between 11 and midnight. He frantically calls my name and declares that he wants to go “down’tairs”. In order to keep him older brother (with whom he shares a room) sleeping, we have to quietly insist that he lays back down and goes to sleep. Sometimes this works and when it doesn’t, our little 2 year old night owl with wail and scream and hit until something happens. The something is either he cries himself to sleep in my arms or the lack of sleep gets to me and I take him downstairs to sit.

Last night, he woke up at 1 am with the same routine. This time I just politely told him to go back to bed and went back to my bed and attempted to sleep. He sat at the landing of our staircase screaming his head off. No way am I giving this little boy his way tonight. I can’t survive with this routine. 90% of the time he insists that I be the one to “keep him company”, adamantly refusing the requests of his father. Tonight, he wanted to go downstairs badly enough that he welcomed his father eagerly.

So this brings me to this current moment. I am awake at 4:30 in the morning, workout clothes sitting right next to me. I am “ready” to do my daily workout, but I don’t want to risk waking him up. It sounds almost crazy. His sweet little butt spent almost 2 years waking me up multiple times nightly and now I don’t want to wake him up and ruining an already awful night’s sleep. Parental love at it’s best. I guess I just thank him for giving me a chance to vent and blog, Thanks L!

On the road again

We saw some old friends, M & H,  for a playdate with the kids. They too are on a health journey of sorts.M is a big runner. He is registered to run a half marathon in August and is actively recruiting friends to join him. The run sounds amazing. You start at AT&T park, run to the Golden Gate Bridge and turn around to end up on the outfield! Amazing! I love the Giants. I love San Francisco! I just am not sure that I would love to do a Half Marathon in 3 months. So I signed J & I up for the 10K.

I am super excited and motivated to train for this run. Heck, I woke up bright and early this morning to go for a jaunt around Lake Merritt. I did not have the best night sleep for some reason but pushed my lazy butt out the door to get it done.

The weather couldn’t be better for a 6 am run. Sunny, clear skies and a slight chill in the air made for the perfect conditions. Now, just to get the motivation to run the whole lake with no stopping.

The first thing I saw on my run was this lovely sign.


Hey I just started this run! Ha! It made me stop, laugh and turn around to take this picture. It was a funny way to start off my first run in a long while. It definitely shook off any tightness i was feeling.

I put on some good tunes.


And I just started going, moving my feet forward, listening to the beats in my ears. I try to soak in the beautiful scenery.Image

31 minutes and 1 5K later, I had finished my first run of my Giant Race training season! Feels good. The sweat, the red face, the slightly sore quads. It feels like a familiar place.

Owning it


I had a lovely chat with one of my coworkers today. She has also been on a health kick and has lost a good amount of weight. We both have a tremendous amount in common. We are both full time working moms of two kids trying to navigate our busy lives as healthily as possible. We only see each other a couple times a month, but we both shower each other with encouragement and compliments each time.

We both are Type A personality perfectionists who are hypercritical of ourselves. We both have a hard time taking all the compliments with our weight loss. I feel like I still have so far to go. And she feels like the compliments are a commentary on how she looked previously. Either way, we both feel like we are still on our journey to optimal health. Neither of us are there yet.

K is not one to beat around the bush, she tells it like it is. So when she complimented me and I told her how I felt good, but desperately wanted to eliminate my gut. She told me bluntly “Get over it or get surgery!” I laughed, because this is just how she is. She then proceeded to explain her blunt statement. She has been having the same feelings as well about her core area and was complaining to her trainer. Her trainer had told her the same statement. Basically, we all can tone up our middles, but the excess stuff left from two pregnancies and years of being overweight was not going to go away anytime soon. So, we might as well just “own it or do something (namely surgery) tofix it, because it ain’t going nowhere”. She is totally right.

There are things that just can’t and won’t change unless I do something extreme to make them change. And I don’t feel so strongly about it to actually pay money and risk my life to have it surgically changed. I will never have long skinny legs. I have short muscular ones that help me run pretty fast and look pretty decent in heels. I kind of have large saggy boobs, but these babies fed two healthy boys and look pretty decent in a push up bra. All the worry and complaints, hours of sweat and tears will never change these things. So, I am letting myself own it.

Thank you body for carrying me around these almost 36 years and providing me a life that I really appreciate and love. I promise to keep on taking care of you, if you take care of me.

Super Hero Status


It is so funny how life is. I seemed to have caught F’s cold, so I have been feeling rather out of sorts and generally yucky. My workouts have been really challenging because my breathing is really off and I haven’t been sleeping well. I have not been feeling super great about myself.
Yesterday, when I went to pick up the boys from school, I noticed that F’s class had done Mom Questionnaires in  celebration of mother’s day. It made me smile for so many reasons. That kid is such a snuggly love bug. I hope that he always stays this loving. Mostly though, it allowed me to see his perception of me as a mother. F sees me as a 25 year old aspiring firefighter whose favorite thing is her 4 1/2 year old little hero. He definitely got it right that he is my favorite thing ever (in addition to his father and brother). Not so sure about the other stuff.
This mother’s day weekend, I would like to celebrate my children, who have given me the right to celebrate this holiday. I wear my mommy badge fiercely and proudly. It empowers me and gives me street cred. It makes me a Mommy Superhero.
Each morning, I love to see their sweet peaceful faces and hear their calm breathing as they slumber away. I love carrying their heavy sleepy bodies in my arms down to snooze on the couch while they slowly wake up. No quick abrupt wake ups for my little sleepy bears. F likes to be kissed and nuzzled awake. Li takes a little bit more slow and calm movements. I indulge both of their needs, as neither one seems to have inherited my morning personality.
At the end of each school day, I love seeing their faces when they realize that I am there to pick them up from school. I swear it is my favorite part of the day. I feel like a true Superhero when they scream my name and sprint across the play yard towards my open arms. I very rarely allow J the opportunity to do the school pickup. In the rare case that I don’t do the pickup, I feel off for the day, less joyful, like I missed something important.
I love being accosted by their school friends. I treasure the high fives and the requests to be held and hugged. I love being begged to watch them do another cool stunt or execute another cool airplane maneuver with whatever paper airplane they constructed for the day. I spend a good 15 minutes listening to the kids tell me their latest secrets and describe their cool new toy acquisition. I always exit reluctantly to take my tired kids home from a long day of school, but smile thinking of how fun and sweet their school friends are.
I love our car conversations about their school day. I get to hear what they ate for lunch, who they played with, who made bad decisions that day, what they did in art, how many times they played outside. I never tire of the school stories. I adore hearing F’s sweet squeaky voice singing the new song of the week.
I love absentmindedly taking off their shoes inside when we get home, only to realize that the sand from the playground is now sprinkled in our entry way and carpet.
I love the dinnertime dessert negotiations. If I eat 3 carrots, can I get ice cream and a cookie? If I finish this chicken nugget, can I get 2 movies rather than one? Do I have to eat all 3 carrot sticks?
I love the bathtime madness. There is always so much water pooling outside of the tub no matter how many times I beg them to keep their splashing to a minimum. The bath toys are rapidly taking over so much room in the bathroom, we might need a new storage container just for the bath toys.
I love the storytime bargaining. So, will you read me 3 short books or what about 1 long book and 1 short book? Okay, so since we got 2 short books, can you tell us a story too?
I love the bed fellow convo. After L falls asleep, will you snuggle me until I fall asleep? Can I have one more drink of water with ice? This water is too warm, will you get me some more ice?
Now, it would be a lie to say that I always feel joyful. I would be fibbing if I said that I never felt frustrated or impatient. But, most of the time, I truly do love most bits of motherhood.
My kids help me to see myself in a different way each day. My kids tell me that I am strong and beautiful. My kids thank me for tucking them in at night. F appreciates that I carefully floss his teeth each night (which he announced at the Preschool Mother’s Day Program on the microphone). L shows me he loves me, by being fiercely protective and possessive of me. I love them for giving me my mommy superhero cape. I wear it with pride each day.

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